Joey McIntyre Dishes On Fatherhood And The Art Of Settling Down
From being a heartthrob in a boy band to becoming a responsible dad, Joey McIntyre has had quite the journey. He might be best recognized for being the youngest member of New Kids on the Block but nowadays, the 44 year-old and is a father of three with a career in television. The first season of his new show Return of the Mac on PopTV just wrapped.
He has experienced plenty— from being the object of every woman’s desire to becoming a family man whose former stardom seems to have less pull than being Dad. We caught up with McIntyre to hear his advice on the journey to settling down.
How has life changed for you going from being a sought-after single man to a responsible dad?
It feels like a lifetime ago. That being said, I think it doesn’t happen overnight. The taking on the responsibility of raising kids and being a good husband has a learning curve. I think just coming to terms with the idea of keeping it simple. Your life get smaller and bigger at the same time.
How did you know you wanted to settle down?
Probably coming from a big family, it was a natural pull to want to have a family and relatively early. But it was a big plan. I had to meet my wife first and that is equal parts willing to be brought to your knees: letting go of your ego, being vulnerable and fate.
Did you always want to be a dad?
Yup. Never thought of the option that I wouldn’t be.
What’s the best fatherhood advice anyone has given you so far?
Be there. In general, though, it’s trial and error with advice and different ideas, hoping things work.
You have three kids under the age of 10. What’s the most challenging time as a dad (first few months or maybe at a later age)?
Yes and yes and everything in between. Everyday has its challenges. I see that if I keep my cool and somehow don’t take it personally, then my kids have the room to cool off and work it out without me forcing it. (Note to Self: Dear Joe, practice what you preach.)
Any must-own products as a dad that you recommend? Anything you’ve discovered that’s really helpful with day-to-day life?
Collapsible chairs with shade covers for all the sports/games in sunny California. A rested dad is a good dad.
What advice do you have for guys who just found out they’re going to be a dad?
You can read all the books in the world. Nothing really prepares you. When you have that first kid, it feels like you’re having five at once.
What advice will you pass down to your boys Rhys and Griffin about the ladies?
I had seven older sisters, so I believe I was a lot more respectful than some others guys. And because of that, I probably missed out on some “action”, but I wouldn’t change it. Life moves so fast and though, when you’re a teenager, things don’t move fast enough ever, I would caution them to take it slow.
What advice do you have for Kira about men?
Oy! I’d tell her to own her power. That she owes nothing to anybody. And then defer to her mom, who from what I hear had fun in college, but was able to find a gem like me!
What kind of gifts do you get for Father’s Day?
The handmade cards from my kids are the best.
Do you look forward to telling your kids about New Kids on the Block? What do you think they’ll think when they found out you were a superstar?
That ship has sailed. It’s a part of our lives. And they enjoy it but I’m still just their dad who has a (pretty cool) job.
What’s it like filming with the family?
The kids loved it. We came down in the morning and there was a film crew in our house- super fun and interesting for them. And they only missed a day or two of school so it all worked out.
My wife who never acted before stepped up for us and hit it out of the park!
You’ve had a lot of success in many different realms. When you look back at all of your achievements, what are you proudest of?
Being willing to put myself out there, be vulnerable, get uncomfortable. And just showing up.
Tune into POP TV on Wednesday, May 31 at 8:30p.m. ET to catch the finale!