In the Fall of 2013, Amy Morin started a global conversation on mental strength when her article, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do, became a viral sensation. If you are looking for an expert on this topic you need to hire Amy for your next speaking engagement.
Mental strength is difficult-to-define, yet it encompasses emotional intelligence, self-control, resilience, mindfulness, and mental toughness. It’s the reason that some individuals cope with all the obstacles that come their way, while others collapse at each of life’s challenges.
While there are tons of articles on what mentally strong people do, here we enlist the 5 things mentally strong people don’t do, which help them deal with life beautifully.
1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves
Feeling sorry for yourself won’t work at all. No matter at what stage of life you are, or whatever profession you are in, feeling sorry for yourself will just weaken you mentally and make life difficult for you. Thus, those who are strong at heart and mind don’t waste time feeling sorry for their circumstances and how others treat them. They actively take charge of their life and know that life isn’t a bed of roses for anyone. Mentally strong people don’t hand over the power of attorney of their life to their sorry attitude at any cost.
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Drowning in an ocean of self pity completely ruins your chance of spotting new possibilities as they arise; and this attitude only worsens life. The more you dwell in self pity, the more it will envelop you in its poisonous charm. Strong people, instead of indulging in self-pity, move forward in their life. They are grateful for what they are blessed with and take measures to boost their self-esteem. They will now show any degree of tolerance to any self-pitying thoughts that may arise in their mind and will kick out all the regrets from their life. They instead focus on what they can do about the situation at hand.
2. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks
Taking foolish or reckless risks isn’t a trait of mentally strong personalities. It’s not like they don’t take risks at all, they definitely do, but only after carefully weighing down the pros and cons of their decisions. They are decisive and intuitive, yet they calculate the impact factor and then take very intelligently calculated risks.
They are well aware of the downsides that their risks may pose, but they don’t fret over them. Acting without calculating is not their way of life and this is why mentally strong people turn out to be successful individuals. Sometimes, they may make a decision that may seem potentially dangerous, but, don’t worry, they are not apprehensive of taking calculated risks, and don’t be surprised if it turns out to be a lucrative investment.
Many of our fears are illogical, but to move forward, we have to overcome them. Our fear is a sign of how important success is for us. Thus, mentally strong ones get over their initial paralysis when faced with a risky challenge quickly, they dive down to the calculations fearlessly, and to explore what horizons the risk may potentially open for them.
To learn more about mental strength read Amy Morin’s book: 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t do.
3. They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure
Giving into fears is just not expected from mentally strong people. Mentally strong people would not give in to their fear of failure, they will on the other hand, use it creatively as an opportunity
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