Trending News: Think Hooking Up After A Fight Is A Good Idea? Err, Think Again
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While guys might think jumping in the sack with their partner is the best way to make up after a fight, women who participated in a study say crying and apologizing is a far more effective way of saying you’re sorry.
She said this. You did that. Whatever it is, fights in a relationship are inevitable — and not necessarily a bad thing. But if you think having some passionate, fiery, make up sex will make things all better, you might want to think again.
Researchers out of Bucknell University, Pennsylvania, asked 74 heterosexual men and women to list five behaviors couples will do after a fight, Indy100 reports. They were then put into 21 categories and the responses were rated for their effectiveness by another group of participants.
“It was found that men, compared to women, rated a partner doing nice gestures and giving sex/sexual favors as more effective,” the report reads.
In other words, guys think having sex after a breakup is a great way to apologize.
Women, not so much.
The women rated a heartfelt apology as the most effective way to make up after a response. They also said letting the waterworks flow helped them forgive their guy.
So if women don’t think make up sex is that effective, why do they do it?
According to researcher T.J. Wade, women can tell that you want sex, and if they want to keep you around they’ll give it to you to keep you around.
“Women may thereby use sexual favors as a way to reconcile with their male partner,” Wade said. “Doing so may communicate to their male partner that they are still sexually accessible and as such do not want to end the relationship.”
So if you want to truly apologize, don’t make your lady have sex just to please you. Be a real gentleman and cry like a baby until she forgives you. That’s the real manly thing to do.
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