Trending News: Here’s The Guaranteed Way To Make Your Relationship Last
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A review of four studies has found that the key to a long-lasting affectionate relationship is — you guessed it — an ample sex life.
Some say that sex is only 20% of a relationship — but just try and be in a sexless couple or one with a weak sex life. Yeah, that 20% can feel more like the entire relationship.
A new review of four studies has found that sex doesn’t just feel good in those precious moments afterward — giving you that amazing afterglow. Rather, more sex can lead to a higher satisfaction with your relationship and your life in general.
“It’s well known that sex often produces a short-term afterglow,” said Ian Kerner, a sex therapist to CNN. “This study demonstrates that sense of well-being and connection extends beyond the bedroom.”
In one of the studies, the researchers found that demonstrations of affection — a soft touch or a caring word — improved relationship satisfaction for both men and women.
“This was surprising,” said study lead author Anik Debrot of the University of Lausanne in Switzerland, “since research has found gender differences in how men and women approach sexuality, and we always think of women as the ones who associate sex with affection.”
Two other studies found that more sex can lead to more cute moments in the relationship outside the bedroom. And without those affectionate moments, the relationship can wither and die.
In other words, you can’t just have had good sex in the beginning and expect it to carry you through forever. Whether you’ve been together for a few months or 30 years, you need to keep up that healthy sex life to keep that passion alive.
Interestingly, Debrot says this all leads back to caveman days. A good way to make sure both parents stay around to look after the kids is to keep running off to the cave.
“The sharing, emotional aspects of sex are critical to our well-being,” Debrot added. “People who are motivated to please their partner, and motivated to make their partner happy, they are more satisfied and have a more satisfied partner, both sexually and in the relationship.”
If you’re finding that your sex life is getting a little stale, check out these 10 fun ways to spice it up.
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How do you get back to a good sex life if things are rocky in the relationship due to other factors?
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The afterglow from sex lasts 48 hours.