When you go out to dinner, are you satisfied with a meal that had a great side dish and appetizer but a mediocre entrée? If you took a vacation to a five-star hotel, would you give it rave reviews if the rooms were beautiful but the service sucked? Would you feel fulfilled in a relationship with someone who was faithful some of the time?
Absolutely not!! We desire, even demand, 100% satisfaction, congruency and commitment from the things and people we invest in. But when it comes to our own life, sometimes we often tolerate below average performance in certain areas of our life, thinking we can make up for it by rocking it in other areas. For example, you may be a rockstar at your job, but your personal relationships are lacking. Or you may be a super healthy green-juice-drinking gym and yoga rat, but your finances are a mess.
Why is this a problem? When there are one or more parts of your life that you do not optimize, it prevents you from being an all around peak performer.
Think of it this way: if one piano key is out of tune, the song can still be played but it just does not sound as good.
I have a great example of this that I share in this week’s vlog which was inspired by Jill who has worked with me for the past five years. Many of you have been lucky enough to meet her at one of my events or retreats and know that she is truly one-of-a-kind. Recently she got even more awesome after undergoing a transformation . . .
A lover of learning, Jill has always been dedicated to living an optimal and balanced life. But she had an “aha” moment at the beginning of the year that there was one area of her life where she was not truly living up to her potential: diet and exercise. Granted she was healthy and worked out (sometimes), but she did not prioritize it by investing time and energy into learning and creating new habits. She felt totally optimized in the areas of her career, finances, spiritual life, and relationships, but when it came to her body, she was just settling for her comfort zone. Since this realization, she has been working with a trainer and nutritionist and has completely transformed her body. Not only has it been physically satisfying, she has noticed how it has uplevled ALL aspects of her life – she’s on fire!
This is what happens when we are willing to do what it takes to transform the areas of our life that would only get a one or two star review. A domino effect occurs because the part of our consciousness that knows were we are settling or playing small can relax. Suddenly we free up so much energy that we begin to generate and attract more satisfying and consistent results in all aspects of our life.
My encouragement to you is take a brutally honest assessment of your life – career, finances, romantic relationships, family, friendship, spirituality, sexuality, nutrition, exercise, creative expression, personal growth, etc – and identify the areas that you are not paying a lot of attention to, feel unfulfilling, intimidate you, or are messy. Then immediately commit to investing time and energy into upleveling them.
No more settling for less than awesome in any aspect of your life. No more attempting to compensate for where you are lazy by overdoing it in another area. No more allowing ignorance or fear to stop you from changing. You cannot expect optimal results unless you are congruent in all aspects of our life.
I would not be able to do the work I do unless I lived the well-rounded and balanced life I am I committed to. Not only would incongruency be a barrier, I would feel like a fraud and be out of integrity with myself.
Get back into integrity with yourself. You deserve and are FULLY capable of generating a well-rounded and balanced life.
Christine Hassler has broken down the complex and overwhelming experience of recovering from disappointment into a step-by-step treatment plan in her new book Expectation Hangover. This book reveals the formula for how to process disappointment on the emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual levels to immediately ease suffering. Instead of wallowing in regret, self-recrimination, or anger, we can see these experiences as catalysts for profound transformation and doorways that open to possibility. You can find more info on her website, and follow her on Twitter and FB.
I have two summer events coming up. A one-day soul sweat retreat with my friend Ashley Turner on June 7th and my annual weekend summer retreat in July. Come to get in alignment with your mind, body and soul!
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