New this week in Ivanka Trump’s quest to become a lifestyle guru is Women Who Work, her long-awaited working mother’s guide to having it all. But if you came to Women Who Work looking for solutions to workplace inequities, you’re asking the wrong person.
In Women Who Work, Trump frames men as equal partners in all things. On the domestic front, they’re husbands who split the full burden of child-rearing. In the workplace, she urges them to join the fight for a more flexible work-life balance. But for a book about the challenges women face in the workplace, Women Who Work chickens out on identifying the challenges men create for working women. Examples that spring to mind include paying women less, making sexist jokes to female colleagues, and interrupting them or ignoring them during meetings. Ivanka can’t really help you with any of those, though.
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Of course, this isn’t much of a surprise; this is classic Ivanka—her version of feminism lite cherry-picks its girl-power elements (like bad inspirational quotes) while ignoring the hard questions and refusing to point fingers. See for yourself in the excerpts below.
On hiding emotion (and being more like Jared):
“My husband, Jared, is by far one of the most positive, proactive, solution-oriented people I’ve ever met. He’s incredibly pragmatic, always cool in the face of adversity; he finds it unproductive to focus on the problem (versus the solution) or react emotionally. He’s my greatest teacher in this regard, the calm, soothing voice of reason that guides me to focus on what matters most, even in moments of crisis or chaos, when I naturally tend to be a bit more emotional.”
On seeking spousal validation:
“Probably the most reassuring thing I do in moments of high stress is to remind myself what matters most and express gratitude. If I bomb totally, my kids won’t look at me any differently. I ask myself, ‘Will I be less in the eyes of my husband?’ No. If anything, he may love me a bit more—because he’ll know I need it!”
On what to expect from the father of your children:
“It’s important to learn to resist the urge to push men aside when they try to step up and be involved fathers.”
On the different standards men and women face:
“We’ve certainly come far as a society, since in generations past, working women didn’t talk about their families and interests outside of the office, and men would compete to win the ‘he who works longest, works best’ competition—what Anne-Marie Slaughter dubs ‘time macho.’ She calls Dick Darman, Ronald Reagan’s budget director, a paragon of it: ‘Mr. Darman sometimes managed to convey the impression that he was the last one working… by leaving his suit coat on the chair and his office light burning after he left for home.'”
And, just for fun, on Kushner getting suckered into a women’s half marathon:
“When my team and I were training for a half marathon, I convinced Jared to participate and run with me on the weekends (I hadn’t told him the race was just for women!).”